My husband Tom passed at 60 years old. This death occurred seven days after his birthday, and 23 days after we celebrated our 37th wedding anniversary. On October 28th he will have been deceased for six years.
The days, weeks and months following his death left me paralyzed mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. I was in a complete fog. And when you are in that state of mind, clinicians tell you not to make any important decisions. I wish they had told me not to drive either, as I wound up totaling my car the day before Tom's funeral. Actually, my prayer partners did tell me or volunteer to take me where ever I needed to go. But proudly, I declined their invitation, sorry to say.
Being in a weakened state, left me vulnerable in so many areas. But I cannot go into all of that in this short blog. However, we have a promise from God in the Book of Deut 32:7-12. I believe this is a timely word particularly for the widower, male and female who find themselves in the harsh, terrible, lonely valley of bereavement.
A PART of the word says: "He shielded him a cared for him like an eagle that hovers over its young." I used the word "Broods," which connotes the image of a hen towards her chicks. Both images are appropriate for the experience widowers find themselves in.
In the text, the Lord reminds Israel that when they were wandering in the wilderness, in the desert, He took care of them. Their clothes didnt become ragged, their shoes didn't wear out, no one got sick. When they cried out for water, bread, and meat, God provided for them. He gave them a leader, a Shepard, Moses to guide, watch over, pray and intercede for them. Like an eagle, He spread his protective wings over them, ready to catch them in case they fell.
God wanted them to remember that even though forces came against them, hardships, people, family members came against them, He did not abandon them.
As widowers in the aftermath of losing a spouse, we face challenges. We sometimes have to learn a new skill, have to do things our spouse always took care of. At times we are emotionally drained. People we thought would be there to help us bear this burden, are absent. But the Lord is our everlasting strength. He will keep us from falling. God will never leave or forsake us. We can take comfort and courage in knowing that, He will catch us and uphold us, lest we dash our foot against a stone.
If you rest in him He will give you peace. All things work together for our good. Romans 8:28.
If you are a widow, like me, take heart. There used to be a R &B song entitled: " Hold On I'm Coming," by Sam and Dave. The Lord wants us to know that before you call upon him, he is already there. The answer to your question has been answered. Only Believe. Activate your FAITH today. Amen.
Have A Great Weekend and : don't forget To Say Your Prayers.