The famous biographer Boswell tells of a day when his busy father took him fishing. Later when he read what his father wrote in his journal, he was devastated: " Went fishing with my son; a day wasted!" Mothers and Fathers, if you want your children to be proud of you:
(1.) Protect them. Guard them physically when they are young. Do background checks on your care givers, and if divorced or separated, do your due diligence to make sure these people don't have a criminal record or some sort of mental problem. Teach your son to respect girls, and interview the guys who date your daughters. Be sure to check what they and you watch on TV, and especially the increasingly dangerous influences of the Internet.
(2.) Listen to your children. Don't be like the kid who told her mom,"I'm gonna be just like dad when I grow up. My eyebrows are already growing together, and when people talk to me I don't listen." Listening builds a lifetime bridge to your child's heart.
(3.) Be affectionate with them. I can't count the number of times I kissed my babies and then my children when they were well in their teens. Nothing builds security and self worth in your kids like holding them. If you grew up like I did with a father who didn't show a lot of affection, then you do the opposite. And make sure your kids know the important s of showing outward affection to their children. When I look at my so with his four month old daughter, I marvel at how loving and affectionate he is towards her. I strongly believe that will never change, because his dad was always kissing, hugging, and holding he and his sister, well into their young adult stage.
(4.) Discipline them! But go one step further, model self-discipline in your own life. Don't just preach, live it.
(5.) Be fun to be around. Show your children your lighter side. That was one of my regrets. Most of the time I was much to serious around them. Thank God for a husband that was just crazy, comical, a big kid at heart; Tom kept our kids in stitches. It's important not to be too Pre- occupied with work or church that you're a bore or too tired to give them the attention they need. " A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance ." ( Proverbs 15:13). (6) " Walk the walk."
Former atheist Lee Strobel says: " When I became a Christian my five year old daughter said, " Mommy, I want God to do for me what He's done for daddy," and she gave her life to Jesus. Make Christ attractive to your children, and they will be drawn to Him.
Happy Mother's Day to all the moms out there and: " Don't forget to say your prayers!"