This is the third part of our discussion on complaining.
You say, "But isn't it possible my complaint might be legitimate?" Yes. Injustice, abuse, betrayal, robbery, gossip, libel, prejudice, physical harm against you or your family, etc. are legetimate causes. "and if I don't do something about these, wouldn't I be falling in my responsibility?"
Right again! You are called to be salt and light in this world, resolving problems that arise by practicing spiritual principles in your daily life. To do nothing at such times makes you irresponsible and disobedient to God. But complaining about it is not doing something, not by God's definition. You say, "alright; since God is against complaining, how do I handle legitimate complaints?"
(1) Do nothing till you've first talked with God. You'll make the right moves if you take time to get the right counsel. Prayer clarifies your options and adjust your perspectives. It defuses your anger, restoring you to objectivity and rational thinking. Your second move is more likely to succeed if your first move is to seek God for wisdom (See Jas 1:5).
(2) Before you say or do anything, do an attitude check. Stop and ask yourself, "What's my real agenda here? Is it to show them that I'm right and they're wrong? Is it to come away looking good while I make them look bad? Is it to win a personal victory or to solve the problem in a way that glorifies God? Before you speak check what's in your heart, "For the mouth speaks out of that which fills the heart" ( Matthew 12:34 NAS). When your heart attitude pleases God, you're ready to handle any legitimate complaint.
I hope these suggestions and thoughts have helped to clarify how we as Christians and non-Christians should deal with our discontent in various stages and areas of our involvement. Paul the great apostle who wrote most of the New Testament, wrote these words in Philippians 4:11-13 NKJV), "Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."