Rule #2. "Stay Responsible for Your Own Groove. Comments and reflections by yours truly.
John 3:2: "I wish above all things that your soul prosper."
Women in ministry are on the front lines. We work hard, give to everyone else and then burn out, feel depleted, and are not replenished. Balance is an area many women in ministry do not handle well. We preach about it to others, but many of us fail to live it and find ourselves fragmented and falling apart. Scripture says "God is able to keep us from falling" (Jude), yet many of us have fallen.
Suzan says, "As I reflect on my 22 years in ministry, I am saddened by the number of women who stared with me, and particularly those in the pastoral ministry, have fallen by the wayside. They have not just stopped pastoring; they've totally dropped out of God's service. They are MIA., (missing in action), off the scene." Often it was because these women had no support system.
When we have few supports, we have to learn how to create them. Women in ministry are not often mentored by men. We are rarely mentored by women because there haven't been many women ministers ahead of us, and the few are so busy holding themselves together that they don't have energy to mentor all the women answering the call of God today and asking for our help.
Dr. Johnson responds to those needs by having what she calls, quarterly workshops, which she calls, "sister shops," forums for women in ministry. Recently Dr. Rita Twiggs has begun to share and mentor women through, the various conferences that she has been conducting around the country.
Being responsible for you own spiritual groove is taking the time you need for wholeness. One way that I needed to do that was to come face to face with my issues, problems, loss, anger, etc. When God confronted me about my anger and bitterness following the deaths of Tom and Danielle, I decided to seek professional help. I found a Christian counselor and began going to sessions every week for almost two years. Now, that healing and restoration has taken place for the most part, I only have to go on a needs basis.
Another thing I had to do following the tragedies in my life that were zapping my physical and spiritual strength, was to be good to myself. That included taking better care of my skin, exercising, taking a much needed vacation to Jamaica in 2012, by myself, and having my bedroom, kitchen and the places where I spent a lot of time painted. Curtis Mack, a very talented carpenter, painted my bedroom aloe green, which was a very soothing and healing color for me. I liked it so well that I asked him to paint the kitchen the same color. I found a melon color for the hallway. these colors brightened up my environment and I began to feel so much better.
Everyone has to find what works for them. I love water and finding a hotel by the water always brings healing and soothes my mind. I am in need of that right now, but have to wait until my finances allows me that break time. You must discover what makes you happy, what brings you joy and brings you peace and calm. Know yourself and take the time you need to keep yourself in balance.
Balance is also about simple things. It might mean going for a walk, taking yourself to lunch and not talking business or thinking about ministry or business, hanging out with your BFF or another special friend.
Biblical women who took responsibility for their s spiritual groove was Deborah in Judges 4. I like Deborah because she understood time management. She stood under the palm tree and did not run back and forth to judge the people. Rather, the people from Ramah and the people from Bethel came to her for judgment. As women in ministry, we already have a lot on our plates and we must know how to manage our time well. We must know when our Holy Ghost plate is full! this is very important because if you are a vessel being used by God, you have to be in a useful condition.
The last thing I want to say is, choose your battles wisely. women fights are not worth fighting. You don't need to be up in everybody's Kool-Aid and they don't need to be in yours. Attend only to the concerns that matter to God and you. Be sure you know God's voice. Spend time with Him and move only by assignment.
That's it today, Hope this segment of Sister's Rules was beneficial to you, and the brother's out there too.
And I cannot say it often enough: "Don't Forget To Say Your Prayers"