Author Dr. Suzan Johnson Cook
Rule# 7 "Don't Sleep Your Way to a Pulpit or Be Afraid to Say "No!"
1 Chronicles 16:22 "Do not touch my anointed ones; do my prophets no harm."
The popular NIKE company slogan says, "Just Do It." Dr. Sue J would take that swoosh and put the slash through it, then say to sisters in ministry, "Just Don't Do It!" Females in ministry are challenged to raise the standard, so that those with whom we relate understand that we are not sex objects. But rather spiritual leaders.
Because so few have had generations of women in ministry to interact with, many do not know that they are touching the anointed when they make inappropriate sexual overtures. People in the church may hurt you by making negative assumptions. Colleagues may indicate that they want you for their sexual pleasure. They may place in your hands or slip into your coat pocket the key to their rooms at conventions, for example. Firmly return it with a "No thank you," Keep your focus, stay put and maintain your spiritual integrity. and just don't do it.
Some sisters need to repent. Those few thought that the way to the pulpit was the same route some women in Hollywood or in corporate America took to the board room-through the bedroom. In ministry, that is a sure way to lose your anointing-that special spiritual "extra" that the Holy Spirit sends upon God's chosen vessels to accomplish God's work. It is what adds "flavor" to those who are the salt of the earth. You also lose the respect of those with whom you will be on this journey of Christian leadership.
Women of God, do not lose you reputation for a two-minute man. Before you have dressed, the word will have gone out that you are easy, loose and unfit for the kingdom Wait for God to provide your husband or choose celibacy if that is your calling. Become Ms. Right while you are waiting for Mr. Right, You won't connect with Mr. Right by being Ms. Wrong! Our grandmothers use to say, "Keep your legs together, your skirt down and you pants up and let God bless you."
Never allow people to confuse your role and the mission God has called you to. This is Lydia speaking now; I like what the apostle Paul says: Unless after I have preached to others, I become a castoff or disqualified." When I stand in the pulpit, I don't want to have my midnight escapes swirling around in my head. I want to be able to minister to women, men, families without any hindering emotions, because I have not been with their husband and father.
Years ago, I use to play the piano for the male chorus of my former church. I was young, married and had two children. I had to leave my husband and children many times to attend rehearsals or go to other churches with them for singing engagements. I loved my husband and was a devoted mother. I did my level best to always carry myself in a respectful manner. I dressed appropriately, talked in a godly manner and stayed away from anything that may have raised an eyebrow or cause a word or inquiry to reach my husband's ears.
I played for the male chorus for over 15 years. they were the greatest group of people that I ever worked with. I set the standard for my behavior and let it be known that, Thomas Ford was my husband and I was not looking for a substitued. We need to be able to have that interaction and honesty with our male counterparts without eyebrows being raised and with no questions about our character and integrity.
I will stop here and finish this tomorrow. I believe there is a bit more to share.
"Don't forget to say Your Prayers" today and always.