I have three beautiful granddaughters; Jayla age 6 1/2 , Brianna 2 1/2 and Brittany, 16 months. I can't think of anything I enjoy more than spending time with my girls, except of course shopping, when I actually have enough money to do so! I have been spending time with them since they came into the world more or less. No, it is not every day, but I did care for Bree until she was about 5 or 6 months old. And I cared for Brittany until she was about 3 months or a little older. Jayla lives in Albany, so I did not care for her over an extended period of time. But the circumstances surrounding her birth and infancy was much different.
My daughter, Danielle, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer right after giving birth to Jayla. Danie lived 15 months and then passed when Jayla was about 15 months old. However, my husband and I did get to look after her and care for her quit often during those difficult times when Danie needed daycare and Jamus had to work.
We stayed up in Latham, N.Y and Jayla came to Bloomfield to stay with us periodically. She grew to be comfortable, feel safe and secure with her grandparents. My husband absolutely loved his little Jayla Pooh! In order for children to feel comfortable and safe around in your presence, you must spend time with them. You must get to know their likes and dislikes. You must get familiar with their schedules and learn what makes them laugh, cry, scared, or unsure. The child must be familiar with their surroundings, because anything that looks strange and un-sure, makes them feel uncomfortable.
Since Tom's passing, I have to assume caring for the girls on my own. Jayla comes to spend vacation days and some holiday weekends with her Nana. I don't get to see her as often as I like, but when she is here with me, she is perfectly at home and loves spending time with me. We always must have an agenda whenever she comes to visit. The first thing out of her mouth in the morning is: "Nana what are we going to do today?" We do lots of things, but the point is, She loves spending time with me and she feels comfortable in her room, and makes herself at home in the rest of the house.
My two little ones have grown accustomed to coming over and crawling and walking around in my house as if they owned it. That did not happen by accident. I had to go over to their house and visit with them. They had to get familiar with my face, my different hairstyles, lol, and looks. Their parents had to leave them with me not only at their house, but Trevor and Allyson had to bring them over and leave them with me, sometimes for a few hours, and a few times overnight. As I preciously stated, I was not a foreigner to my grands. They knew me; they heard my voice over and over again, they knew my touch, they felt my embrace and warm kisses on their little cheeks. They looked around and saw familiar scenes and pictures in my house, so that they weren't afraid to remain with me when their parents scuttled out of the door.
Yes, they may have whimpered a bit or even yelled out in disgust after being dropped off. But the crying stopped after a short time, and they were whisked away in the arms of their loving Nana's embrace, listening to her made up songs. By the way, they simply loved hearing me make up songs with each of their names in it. I'm telling you, there is something about a grandmother's love, touch, voice, etc that is memorizing, IJS.
OK, so what is my point? Glad you asked! The LORD is our loving Heavenly Father. He loves it when His kids stop by and actually want to spend time with Him. "My sheep hear my voice and they follow me." The LORD is familiar with our voice, our cry, our worship. The Lord knows when we have been absent. He has a perfect memory so He doesn't forget us completely. But the opposite is true of babies and young children. If you do not go around them, pay them visits, make yourself known to them in a tangible way, they will forget you over time. you cannot show up at your grandchild's birthday when they are 3, 5, 10, years old and expect them to recognize you when you haven't spoken or seen them since their birth. Babies have short memories and children need to see, hear, and develop long term memory before you can be thought of as having a real relationship or impact on their life.
Yes, God knows us, He is our creator, but He knows when we have been AWOL. We need to be seeking Him as much as He desires to be sought after! We need to worship and spend time with the Lord because we are unique creatures made in the image of God. We are made for God, so we can't fulfill our purpose unless we develop a right relationship with Him. And worship helps us to do that when we focus on the Lord. If all we do is ask for God's goodies when we go before Him, we cannot expect Him to make emergency house calls when some crisis shows up in our lives. God has "Call Waiting Too!" God has, "Let me check his or her status updates too!!! He might be asking, When was the last time he or she checked in with ME!!! Let's see, no text, no tweet, no periscope, no snap-chat, Gee, I haven't heard from them in a while!!! Do you hear me, do you hear me now?
William Temple said: "in worship the conscience is quickened by the holiness of God, the mind is fed by the truth of God, the imagination is purged by the beauty of God, the heart is opened to the love of God, and the will is devoted to the purpose of God. and so we are helped onward to our goal of becoming more like God when we worship and seek His face.
That was David's desire, to seek the face of God, to be in His presence, to wait on Him in His holy tent, His tabernacle, the sanctuary of God's presence. David realized that His presence was worth waiting for. He was so confident in God that in verse 13 he said, "What would have become of me had I not believed that I would see the Lord's goodness in the land of the living!" In verse 10 David said, " Although my father and my mother have forsaken me, yet the Lord will take me up and adopt me as His child" AMP.