"For it is not an enemy who reproaches me; then I could bear it. Nor is it one who hates me who has exalted himself against me; then I could hide from him. But it was you, a man, My equal, my companion and my acquaintance. We took sweet counsel together, and walked to the house of God in the throng."
The Message Bible says it this way: This isn't the neighborhood bully mocking me_ I could take that. This isn't a foreign devil spitting invective, insulting, abusive, or highly critical language-I could tune that out. It is you! My Best Friend!
Saints of God, you haven't felt the pangs and sting of betrayal and offense, until it comes by way of the one you love, or someone who has been very close and intimate with you and your life. David says and I reiterate: "For it is not one who hates me who has exalted himself against me; then I could hide from him. But it was you, a man my equal my companion and my acquaintance, my confidant. We took sweet counsel together, and walked to the house of God in the throng."
That is why you have to be careful who you share your dreams, visions, and prophecies with! If your friends don't get excited, truly excited when God starts blessing you and manifesting your purpose, you need to re-evaluate your relationship with your friends. If your friends don't get excited when you get a promotion on your job, when you get elevated to the next level in ministry, when you get the new husband, wife, car, house or raise. you had better start looking at them with a new set of eyes. You had better begin guarding your heart and your mouth! You had better think more carefully at the way they respond to your promotion. Be cautious about telling all you business to him or her.
People will cry with you when you are in the valley and in the wilderness of despair. But be wary of those who will not celebrate with you when God brings you out of those tight places and begins to restore, transform, and bless you exceedingly, abundantly, beyond all you could ask or think. Yea, your friends with stick like glue to you and pray, cry and lament with you when you are going through hell and high water, but some of those same people will have a problem with you when promotion time comes around! Why? Because they wish they were You! They are offended that your good fortune didn't happen to them. After all, you go to the same church, sing in the same choir, work at the same type of job and both of you are married with children. so why her and not me some would begin to murmur.
Then they start to question why you are doing this or that. They begin to make light of your advancements. They don't compliment and rejoice over your achievements anymore. They use to send you cards, call you on the phone and pray God's blessings on you, but now all of that has come to a halt. Soon they stop coming to your events that place you in the limelight or make you look good. They get jealous and begin to talk negative about you to other folk that you know!
These people are the ones whom we sit and sing alongside, or perhaps they are in the next cubical on your job. These are the folks that might even be delivering the morning message at your church. We spend holidays, attend social functions, and share office space with these people. Or perhaps it is close than that! We grow up with, confide in , and sleep next to these people. The close the relationship, the more severe the offense! You find the greatest hatred among people who were once very close Says Bevere in his book.He also says, "Lawyers will tell you the most vicious cases of offense are in the divorce courts. The American media constantly report murder in homes by despaired family members. My girlfriend in Florida, just recently told me of an incident between two people who attended the the seminary that she recently graduated from. Both these individuals attended different churches. But the man killed this woman from another church. The pastors from their various churches had no idea that these two individuals were having some type of domestic crisis. This traumaic experience prompted these pastors and some concerned clergy to convene a conference dealing with "Church Hurt."
I believer the reason there are so many Television programs like: "Divorce Court, The People's Court, Judge Mathis, Judge Joe Brown etc, is because people are offended. Somebody has done somebody else wrong, and they are like "debt collectors," they figure, somebody has to pay for the wrong, "offense" done to them! History will show that the bloodiest wars are civil-brother against brother, son against father, or father against son.
When you think about the familial relationships in the Bible in which the spirit of offense was prevalent, you can't help recall the victims such as, Joseph with his brothers, the jealousy that rose among them after he told them his dreams and the father bestowed upon him the coat of many colors. Then there is the rivalry between Jacob and Esau, when Esau sold his birthright to Jacob for a bowl of soup, and again when Jacob tricked Esau out of his inheritance. Finally there was Davidwhoand his son Absalom, who undermined him and was intent on stealing the kingdom from David.
the possibilities for offense are as endless as the list of relationships, no matter how complex or simple. This truth remains; only those you care about can hurt you. You expect more from them-after all, you've given more of yourself to them. Bevere says,"The higher the expectation; the greater the fall.
Selfishness reigns in our society Men and women today look out for themselves to the exclusion and neglect and hurt of others around them. This should come as no surprise to those of us.; Even in the House of God! the Bible is very clear on this point. "Timothy says," In the last days, men will be "lovers of themselves" (2 Timothy 3:2).
We expect this in unbelievers, but Paul was not referring to those outside the church. He was talking about those within it. Many are wounded, hurt, and bitter. They are offended! But they do not realized that they have fallen into Satan's trap.
Me, Offended? Jesus makes it very clear that it is impossible to live in this world and not have the opportunity to become offended. yet most believers are shocked, bewildered, and amazed when it happens. We believer we are the only ones who have been wronged. This response leaves us vulnerable to a root of bitterness. Therefore we must be prepared and armed for offenses, because our response determines our future.
In my next blog, I will discuss the condition of the heart. I am talking about the true heart, not that fake phony heart that is cloaked in false humility and pride. Pride will you from knowing the true condition of your hear.
God Bless, and:" Don't Forget To Say Your Prayers."