Sometimes people have to reach the "wretch" stage before they acknowledge their need, just like the prodigal hit bottom before he got serious about his sin problem. And father let it happen. "It's called tough love for a reason! When the prodigal son) came to his senses, he said...here I am starving to death! I will...go back to my father and say... I have sinned" (Luke 15:17-18 NIV). By crossing the line between caring and caretaking, you hurt the person you're trying to help by implying they can't handle the truth or learn their lesson. So back off, and place your loved one into God's hands. He loves them even more than you do.