It seems that our nation has lost the voice of its fathers (dads, leaders, or ministers) in the 1940s and 1950s, and today our condition is getting worse. Not unlike King Saul, mamy leaders in our homes, corporations, and churches are more concerned with their goals and visions than they are with fathering their offspring.
Because this attitude persist, these leaders view God's people as resources to serve their vision instead of seeing the vision as the vehicle to serve the people. The success of the vision justifies the cost of wounding lives and shattered people. Justice, mercy, integrity, and love are compromised for success. Decisions are based on money, numbers, fame and results. This kind of behavior opens the door to treatment such as David received at the hands of Saul. After all, Saul had a kingdom to protect. This type of treatment is acceptable in the mind of the leader because they are the ones in the pursuit and furtherance of the gospel!
There are numerous leaders that have cut off men and women under them because of suspicion, jealousy, and intimidation. Why are these leaders suspicious? The answer is, because they are not serving God. They are serving a vision and idea. Like Saul, Many of these leaders are insecure in their calling and this breeds jealousy and pride. They recognize the gifts and qualities in their mentees, associates, and underlings, and they know they are godly people, yet they will only use these individuals as long as it benefits their agenda. Saul enjoyed the successes of David until he saw that the admiration for him becoming greater than himself. And then the love and admiration that he felt for David became a threat to his kingship, so he demoted David and watched for every opportunity to kill him.
I am sure there are countless young and older men and women who cried out for accountability and fathering. These individuals wanted to be submitted to a leader who would disciple them. But they felt isolated and alone at times. Such individuals are seeking someone to father them. But God allows all of us to go through rejection because God wants to do in us what He had done in David's life.
David was concerned that Saul believed he was rebellious and evil. David must have searched his heart, saying, "Where have I gone wrong? How was Saul's heart turned against me so quickly?" That is why he cried out, "Someone urged me to kill you, but I said no. I only cut off the corner of your robe so that you could know and see that there is neither evil nor rebellion in my hand." (See 1 Samuel 24:11). David thought if he could prove his love for Saul, Saul would restore him to favor, and the prophecy would be fulfilled.
But unfortunately, people who have been rejected by a spiritual father or leader tend to take all the blame on themselves. They are imprisoned by tormenting thoughts of "What did I do?" and "Was my heart impure?" They sometimes wonder, "Who turned the heart of my leader against me?" Then they constantly try to prove their innocence to their leaders. They think that if they can only show their loyalty and love they will be accepted. But sadly, the more they try, the more rejected they feel.
Well then, who will avenge me one might ask? Saul acknowledged David's good intentions when he saw that David could have killed him and did not. So he and his men left. David must have thought, " Now the king knows what is in my heart and he will restore me as a son, and the prophecy over my life will be fulfilled." "NOT!" Only a short time later, men reported to Saul that David was in the hills of Hachilah. Saul went after him once again to pursue and kill him. I am sure that David was devastated knowing that his leader was relentless and unrepentant of his despicable behavior towards him. Saul was intent upon killing an innocent man, how rejected David must have felt.
Once again David had an opportunity to kill Saul when he slipped into his camp. The guards were fast asleep because the Lord had put them in a deep sleep. His servant Abishai pleaded with David saying: "God has delivered your enemy into your hand this day. Now therefore, please, let me strike him at once with the spear, right to the earth; and I will not have to strike him a second time!' ( 1 Samuel 26:8). Abishai had very good reasons whey he thought David should allow him to kill Saul. First, Saul had murdered 85 innocent priest and their families in cold blood! Second, he was out with an army of three thousand to kill David and his followers,. If you didn't kill the enemy first, Abishai reasoned, he will surely kill you it is self-defense. Every court of law allows for that ! Third, God through Samuel had anointed David as the next king of Israel. David should claim his inheritance if he didn't want to end up a dead man without the prophecy ever being fulfilled. fourth, God put this entire army to sleep so that David and Abishai could walk right up to Saul. Why else would God do such a thing? To Abishai it seemed David would never get a chance like this again.
All of these reasons sounded good and they made sense. He was even getting encouragement form another brother. So David if David was even the least bit offended, he would have been totally justified and would have allowed Abishai to put a spear through Saul. but listen to David's response
"Do not destroy him; for who can stretch out his hand against the Lord's anointed, and be guiltless? as the Lord lives, the Lord shall strike him, or his day shall come to die, or he shall go out to battle and perish. The Lord forbid that I should stretch out my hand against the Lord's anointed' (1 Samuel 26:9-11).
David would not avenge himself and murder Saul, but he left it in the hands of God. David proved his purity of heart when he s pared Saul's life. Even when he had a second chance to kill Saul, he would not touch him. How many people today have a heart like David's? We no longer kill with physical swords but ravage each other with a sword of a different kind-the tongue. "Death and life are in the power of the tongue" (proverbs 18:21).
Church split, families divide, marriages shatter, and love dies, crushed by an onslaught of words launched in hurt and frustration. Offended by friends, family and leaders, we take aim with words sharpened by bitterness and anger., Even thought information may be factual and accurate, motives are impure. Proverbs 6:16-19 says that sowing discord or separation among brethren is an abomination to the Lord., When we repeat something with the intention of separating or damaging relationships or reputation-even though it is true-it is still an affront to God.Again I repeat, it is important to know what is in your heart. The only way to know that is to ask the Father to reveal the real motives behind your actions.and keep in mind the words spoken by the Lord: "Vengeance is mine, I will repay."
I hope you got something out of today's blog. this is part one of" Where are the Fathers?"
And as always: "Don't Forget To Say Your Prayers."