The title of the show refers to the clear role reversal of the two lead actors, where a woman was the breadwinner and a man (although he was not her husband) stayed at home and took care of the house. It challenged contemporary stereotypes of Italian-American young males as macho and boorish and wholly ignorant of life outside of urban working-class neighborhoods, as Tony was depicted as sensitive, intelligent and domestic with an interest in intellectual pursuits.
It is easy to see how adolescent children might become confused and wonder, “Who’s the boss here?” Do I listen to my eccentric, uptight mother’s rules and advice concerning dating, or whatever, or do I listen to the down to earth sensible, non-conformist, house keeper who is emotionally stable, non-judgmental and able to reach a compromise that most young people could be comfortable with.
Most of us struggle with issues concerning the flesh. Many Christians struggle with that voice inside of their head that says, “Who is in control of this situation? Do I give in to my flesh or do I listen to the spirit and deny my fleshy desires. Who’s going to be the boss in this case? Who is going to win this fight?
When we allow the Holy Spirit to be in control, we don’t have to wrestle with those questions. The Holy Spirit is like an umpire. He is the one that should make the call when we find ourselves in situations of conscious and temptation. Let the Holy Spirit call the shots. Let Him direct you into all spiritual truths. Let Him be the umpire of your soul. The Holy Spirit will keep you in line with God’s will.
There was a devotional reading in “The Daily Bread” booklet. It told the story of a grandmother that was babysitting two of her young grandsons. The two boys began to argue over a toy. Suddenly, the younger (by three years) forcefully ordered his older brother, “Cameron, to go to your room!” With his shoulders slumped under the weight of the reprimand, the dejected older brother began to slink off to his bedroom when the grandmother said, “Cameron, you don’t have to go to your room. Nathan’s not the boss of you!” That realization changed everything for this little boy, and Cameron, smiling, sat back down to play.
As followers and believers of Christ, the reality of our sinfulness, brokenness, and our inclination towards sin, can assume a false authority much like that younger brother. Sin noisily threatens to dominate our hearts and minds, and the joy of the Lord drains from every fiber of our being. It stifles our relationship with our Savior, Jesus Christ.
But through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, the treat is an empty one. Sin no longer has power over us. That is why the Apostle Paul wrote, “For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are no under the law but under grace.” (Romans 6:14). Our brokenness, shame, sinfulness, disobedience, is certainly real; nevertheless Christ’s grace enables us to live in a way that pleases God and expresses His transforming power to the world.
Who’s the boss? Sin isn’t your master. Sin is not your Boss! We now live in the grace and presence of Jesus. We are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. We have right standing because Jesus took and bore all of sins, past, present, and future, with Him on the cross. Christ’s dominion in our lives releases us from the bondage of sin. I feel a praise coming to my feet right now. That is the sure enough Good News of the Gospel. The Letter (the law) killeth, but The Spirit giveth Life! Chose Life!